Is Trust important in a Relationship?

 Broken heart signifies broken relationship
  
I was speaking to my baby cousin two weeks ago and he mentioned that he was seeing someone. I was so happy for him because the previous relationship left him broken and in lot of pain. Unfortunately
My happiness did not last long. Few days later, he dropped a bombshell  that they broke up. THE END

The reason behind the break up was that someone told her that my cousin was with another girl. She said that she doesn't trust him and he is a loser and she wants to break up with him. That’s it, end of the relationship. 

Days later, she texts him and tells him that she wants to get back together. My brother was confused and did not answer straight away. So, she called him a loser and all those things again.

I said, if she doesn’t trust you, then what is the use of getting back together?  Unless you want to give the relationship another chance and see if it works. Risky situation but completely in your hands. 
My cousin is like, if we get back together, she may get up one day and say that she doesn’t trust me, what do i do then? There you go, you have your answer.

However, i do feel sorry because i know that when you are in love, it is not so simple. Heart takes over and the brain stops working. A simple question becomes complicated  and even if you know what the answer is, your heart do not agree.
Nothing is simple in today's world.

If it was me, i would have spoken directly to my partner and asked him if there was something going on and try and talk things through, if i wanted to make this relationship work. I wouldn’t just give up like that. Every relationship has it ups and downs and people will tell you things. Rather than listening to others and jumping to conclusions, it is better to talk face to face and clear any misunderstandings with your partner.

Sometimes, your eyes can defy you. My brother was on holidays for a family wedding and was helping one of the bridesmaid with some chores. But this just led to a big mess and ended up his relationship.

Love and Trust are the top most ingredients that makes a relationship. If you are not in love with the person or if you do not trust the person, there is no future. At least, that is what i believe.
Yes, there are loads of other things that are equally important but the foundation of an relationship is based on love and Trust. If the foundation is not solid then you can decided what the future holds.

What is important in your relationship and how do you make it work?


Forgot to ask, how was your Halloween guys? This is me at Halloween trying to scare the kids :)

Me dressed up as a zombie at halloween

33 comments:

  1. Dearest Naaj, thanks a lot for this thoughtful text. In my opinion in a relationship trust is absolutely necessary! And I think equal what theme - it should be only discussed with the own partner and not with other persons.

    I think in each relationship there are ups and downs as you wrote totally right. But I think if the couple is able to talk and speak about the topics there can be many solved if there is a problem.

    My lovely husband and I spent and spend still many times with discussing and it´s not always easy to understand the concerns of the counterpart. But we learned during the long years which we live now together to find a modus to understand each other.

    Wish you and your cousin that you will find also the fitting partners for you, but I think a relationship is always hard work.

    Hope you feel in general better now, dearest Naaj <3

    xx from Bavaria/Germany, Rena

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    1. I definitely agree with you Rena. Relationship is hard work and needs a lot of time but it is worth all the hard work. If a person gives up so easily then i don't think the relationship is worth the trouble.

      Thank you for your love and support Rena, i am feeling better xoxo

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  2. This its so true sometime when a situation like this happens out of the blue the person its not meant for you.
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  3. trust is very important in a relationship, it also takes time before you can build and earn trust and most of the times that includes a lot of risk ^^ i hope everything goes well for your cousin naaj :) and happy halloween!!! :)

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    1. Trust definitely takes a lot of time to build and can be broken in seconds. If there is no trust, it is not worth taking the risk i believe.

      thank you Shayne. Hope you had a wicked Halloween xx

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  4. Amazing!!!

    xoxo

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  5. Hi dearest Naaj, hope you felt better during the weekend as during the weeks <3 Thank you so much for your visits and your interestings comments, I really appreciate this!

    I wish you a great start in the new week!

    xx from Bavaria/Germany, Rena

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    1. You are always welcome Rena. Thank you so much for being so kind and generous. Loads of love xxx

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  6. Trust is really important to me, but with trust comes a great responsibility because it may take years to gain someones trust and a second of bad judgment to lose it, not that I am saying its your cousins fault at all. People have to realize at the beginning it might be the honeymoon happy bliss phase but its also often the hardest. You still getting to know someone, you will have ups and downs but at the end of the day. If its worth it you will work at it.

    Thank you for commenting on my last post, I loved reading your thoughts on the topic.

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    1. You are so right Meghan. It takes a lifetime to build up that trust and can be shattered in seconds. I had a go at my cousin and explained to him that with relationship comes responsibilities (exactly what you said) and there might be some habits that you will have to cut down on if you want to make the relationship work.

      But i also believe that if you love the person and want to be with him/her, you just don't give up so easily. that shows weakness. At least that is my belief.

      thank you, i love reading your posts. Today's one was so funny...Ex girlfriend :D

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  7. I definitely think trust is the most important part of a relationship...also honesty...to be able to discuss all sorts of topics openly. I think trust is so very valuable because it takes so long to build and can be broken so easily. Therefore, it is very precious and must be held in the highest regard.

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    1. I second every word you have said Imogen. Trust must be given high importance and should not be taken lightly.

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  8. Yes I absolutely enjoyed sitting back with a cup of thee and reading your look on relationships on which I absolutely agree hahah


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  11. For Me, No Trust, No Real Relationship!

    Someone has rightly said > "Trust Is Like an Eraser, It Gets Smaller n Smaller At Every Mistake"

    I'm Glad Your Cousin Didn't Go Back To That Person Coz Giving Up So Easily is Really Weak n A Fragile Mind Can't be Trusted

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    1. You just summed up everything that i wanted to say Heena.

      If there is no trust, how are you going to make a relationship work. Every time the person goes out or comes late, the mind will be full of doubts and that is only gonna tear the relationship apart.

      I just feel like giving you a high-five lol

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  12. it's essential my dear!
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  13. Trust is like a glass. Once it is shattered it can not be put together. Just like an egg. But then again love is so complicated.

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    1. Tell me about it. Love is so complicated and always needs working on. But that is part of life.

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  14. Oh gosh, so many things are important in a relationship. Trust. Honesty. Loving each other for who you are. Being on the same level. Understanding each other without words.

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    1. Definitely, Trust is just one of the ingredient but an important one.

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  15. It's really important trust! nice funny pics! dear if you want we can follow each others :) let me know and i follow you! xo!
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  16. Trust is absolutely essential in a relationship. There are times when you need to depend and trust each other with situations. Definitely need trust and honesty together.

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    1. 100% agree with you. Appreciate your feedback. Thanks xx

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  17. This is such a great post. Looking forward to seeing your next post. :)

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  19. i love your blog!

    what do you think about following each other? (bloglovin/facebook)

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